Turning men into gender equity leaders

This is an inspiring, fantastic TED talk from an anti-violence activist arguing that violence against women hurts men and boys too.  And that the only way to stop it is for men to become leaders in the field – to have the courage to stand up for what hurts everybody.




What are we doing to our kids?

With the recent rape of a 5-year-old girl in Delhi, many other cases of child sexual abuse are coming to light. The abhorrence of all these incidents should continue to make us reflect on all that needs to be done to make our country a safer place – free from sexual violence.

The crisis in our community

What should we do when collective compassion turns to despair? That is a common issue when dealing with rapes in our culture, and this article looks at rape as part of a bigger problem, and gives examples of alternative ways to prevent rape and other crimes. This includes analyzing the role of violence in young Indian men’s lives, resonating with FEM’s views that sexual violence is part of larger problems including the roles of masculinity.


Anti-rape protests in Delhi bring back a mother’s grisly memories

It may be 20 years for everyone else but for Safia ( name changed on request ), it seems like 20 seconds. Overwhelmed by the nationwide outrage over the Delhi gang-rape, she is anguished that no one helped when she and her 19-year-old daughter were stripped and gang-raped.

The mob burnt her daughter alive while she managed to escape on January 10, 1993, in the heat of the communal carnage in Mumbai, after the Babri Masjid was destroyed.


Delhi Gang Rape – Understanding the Structure of Violence

The social, political and legal debates that have followed the gruesome incident of gang rape in Delhi on 16 December – including the debates on the recently published report of Justice Verma Commission widely hailed for its revolutionary character – have not sufficiently engaged with the structure of violence perpetrated in the act of brutality. In forging the solidarity against the suffering, there is a popular tendency to externalise the act of barbarity causing this suffering as demonic and hence out of this world. For instance, one of the posters in the protests that followed the incident read “your suffering is my suffering” – in the same poster it was demanded that those who caused this suffering were narpishach and should be hanged. The pain of the victim is shared collective pain, but the brutality of the act is certainly not the shared collective responsibility. In the preliminary remarks below I want to argue that we need to revise the nature of power asserted in the act of brutality, and in doing so we need to not only convert the demonic caricatures as flesh and blood human beings produced by this world but also to embed their acts into deep-rooted structures of violence in our society.


The Newtown Shooting And Why We Must Redefine Masculinity

Today’s shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut was horrifying, devastating, unthinkable…really, there are no words for such a senseless tragedy. Besides the grief, a lot of people are talking about gun control, and rightfully so. The three guns found at Sandy Hook today were all purchased legally. It is too easy for people to obtain deadly firearms. You can order “bulk ammunition that’s ready to ship” on the internet. There is no doubt that there are too many guns, and that the gun lobby fights all efforts to regulate them. That said, in addition to looking at the gun control issue, there is an umbrella issue that needs some attention.


‘I Am Adam Lanza’s Mother’

Friday’s horrific national tragedy — the murder of 20 children and six adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut — has ignited a new discussion on violence in America. In kitchens and coffee shops across the country, we tearfully debate the many faces of violence in America: gun culture, media violence, lack of mental health services, overt and covert wars abroad, religion, politics and the way we raise our children. Liza Long, a writer based in Boise, says it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.